Is it okay to ask for boundaries at Bachelor parties (or Bachelorette parties for that matter)?
Mar 21st, 2011
The wedding blogosphere lit up this week with the news that ex-bride-to-be Lauren Serafin sued her almost groom-to-be Robert Leighton for $60,000 after discovering that he “hooked up” with another woman “Danielle” during his bachelor party at Las Vegas. According to ABC News The alleged illicit affair happened only weeks before their wedding date and Serafin is demanding that Leighton pay for the costs of the wedding, including wedding dress, honeymoon, invitations, deposit on a banquet hall, and catering services from the Ritz Carlton.
Reading about this sad state of affairs brings me to the question: is it okay to set boundaries for your S.O.’s Bachelor party (or Bachelorette party for that matter)? Or is the Bachelor/ Bachelorette party a sacred last night for “freedom” that shouldn’t be imposed upon?
Yikes! I think it would be really helpful to have a conversation with one’s fiancé before the ensuing nights of debauchery. However it happens, having good communication between the party-throwers and the recipient seems pretty important. Maybe a good thing to add to a maid of honor list?
I agree that there need to be deal breakers (cheating, etc) but the Bachelor(ette) parties are supposed to be crazy and full of surprises. I think it’s more important to know who your throwing it for (strippers or no strippers, that is the question) and what they will be comfortable with. Thanks for the grat article!
[...] 6. Chippendale?: If your friend really wants a crazy night out, a Chippendale- like show might be a consideration. However, we probably would advise careful consideration here… since plenty of marriages have gotten off the wrong foot because of too-crazy Bachelor/Bachelorette parties (see our post on a particularly sleazy story here. [...]